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The Blueprints We Need For Love

What’s funny to me about the house I live is this: it’s currently falling apart.  The hardwood floors need refinishing.  I need a couple of new vinyl windows for better insulation.  The bathroom needs to be re-tiled.  The yard needs to be better landscaped so it looks pretty again.  But that’s because this house is over 60 years old.  It’s older than my own mother, gasp!  (and that’s really, really old, huh Grandma?)  So after all the years of wear and tear, you’d expect that by now it would need some work.  That’s just life.  Without maintenance, things don’t stay perfect forever.

But what about when the house was first built?  Can you imagine the architect standing on the plot, looking around, with a vision in his mind of what he was about to create.  He works hours and hours and hours to design his vision with precision.  He rolls out the blueprints on the table and with his pencil and eraser, he sketches and erases, and then sketches again and again.  He has to get the house “square”, he has to place the doors and windows just so, and the support beams need to be in exactly the right places.  And even beyond the mechanics of it, there is a certain feel, an ambiance, that he is striving to create.  So he continues to work…and work…taking that feeling from a 2-D idea all the way to a 3-dimensional realistic structure.  He buries himself in the task of creating a place where a family can live.  Forever if they take good care of it.

How much more complicated are human relationships than one dumb stick-built house?  How much harder is it to get our relationships “square”?  Putting all the support beams in just the right place, creating a “feeling” and a structure that is safe and secure?

The thing is, building a house is similar to building a relationship.  Much more complicated, but still the the same.  Relationships, like houses, require the right “blueprint”.  A foundation upon which to begin laying the stones.  The blueprints we have for these relationships come from our experiences in our lives.  Did we have a mother that held us a lot and took our feelings into account?  Was our dad supportive and gentle, or was he stoic and strict?  These are the foundations upon which we begin to lay our parenting stones with our own children.  Think back to your past relationships.  What kind of “blueprints” have you been given?  What kind of foundation did they lay for you to build on?

For many of us, looking back at our blueprints is confusing.  It’s confusing to be asked to build something that you don’t have the blueprints for.  What do we need when our own blueprints are not ideal?  We need support.  We need to find a person or a group that can “reparent” us.  We need them to teach us what it feels like to be heard and cared for.  We need to have an experience of unconditional acceptance and the safety to express ourselves.  It is only when we have these blueprints, that we are finally able to pass that on to our own kids.

Sometimes I work with parents who have been torturing themselves, trying to parent their children in this love-based parenting model.  But after years of trying, they still aren’t getting very far.  The relationship continues to collapse and crumble all around them.  Sometimes they paint the outside, but underneath that paint, it’s still that same old, deteriorating relationship.

To these parents, my heart goes out.  I feel their struggle.  I have lived it.

There are many places out there where we can go to acquire the blueprint we need to parent these children.  There are instructors and therapists that know exactly what support beams you need and where to put them in your life.  So reach out to one of the support groups listed in the side bar.  Post to the Consciously Parenting forums or to the Daily Parenting Reflections group and allow the other parents there to hear your voice and to tell you they love you.  Allow them to support you, right where you are.  Stay in it, soak it all up.  Put your fears to the side and just take in that support.  Because each time you experience that, you build a little more of the blueprints your kids need from you.

Because that’s just what they need too.  They need to be heard and made to feel safe enough to express those big, big feelings.  They need to be unconditionally supported.  They need to be loved.  And so do we.  I have to say, I’m only alive today because somebody loved me.  And not because they had to.  But just because they chose to.  Thank you for that.

(This one is for Rebecca, for finally giving me the blueprints I have needed for so long.  I’ll “pay it forward”.  You know I will.)


November 27, 2008 Posted by | A New Paradigm, RAD Education | Leave a comment

I Want To Hold Your Hand and The Mind/Body Connection

There is one.  A connection, between the mind and the body.

We’ve already talked about how memory is stored.  It isn’t stored just in the cognitive brain.  It is stored much, much lower inside our bodies.  All the way down to the cellular level.  Trauma, especially so.

I have talked to so many people who understand this.  Yet more that don’t….sadly.  And the ones who don’t just keep trying to “talk it out” in traditional therapy or with traditional parenting.  They don’t understand that just talking does not reach deeper than the cognitive level.  But the fact is, not everything is something we can “talk out”.  We must also rewire our entire neurological system at the same time.

So how do we do that?  There are many options: massage therapy, neurological “reorganization”, psychosomatic experiential therapy, etc.  But the first step is simply education.  Do the research.  Read the books.  One excellent book on this is written by Candice Pert and is entitled Molecules of Emotion.  Dr. Pert also recently appeared on the Larry King Live show and talked about how this connection is not just figurative.  But literal.  What happens to the body also happens in the mind.  And what happens in the mind also happens to our bodies.  Much of this wiring occurs within the first three years of life.  But we also know that the human brain is plastic, meaning that it continues to change and grow forever.  Nothing is ever etched in stone.

When we experience something, our bodies literally wire itself to fit into that experience.  If it was a positive experience, our cells literally remember that and will seek it out again.  An example of this is human touch.  If we had positive experiences with our mother holding us, we will find pleasure in it throughout life.  Our brains have learned that being held was satisfying.  Hormones were created, pleasure was felt.  We want it again.  And we will attempt to replicate that throughout life.

The same thing happens with negative experiences.  If we have negative or traumatic experiences, our cells will remember that and could lead us to avoid that experience again.  For instance, if we lacked human contact in those first three years, our brains have not been wired to appreciate the closeness of another human being.  When someone does hold us now, we feel much less satisfaction than the baby that was held a lot.  We haven’t yet learned that human touch feels good.  This is the case of many fostered/adopted children.  They fight us when we pick them up.  They dig their chin into our shoulder.  They cry and cannot be soothed with a back rub or a hug.  They do not quite feel the same sensation as mom does in this moment.

But it’s not all lost.  Because the brain is amazingly malleable.  We can change it.  Just like when a person devotes themselves to learning an instrument.  At first they struggle.  There is far less pleasure in it.  It is uncomfortable and hard.  You force yourself to practice.  Every day.  Day after day.  But as you do this, the brain begins to literally change.  Connections between neurons form that were not there before.  Synapses fire that have never fired before.  Eventually, the more you practice, the more pleasure you find in playing.  Every part of your body craves it.  You have learned that it is, in fact, something desirable.  You will continue to seek it out and recognize it through out the rest of your life.

When we have a child with a trauma history, it can be hard to parent them.  They don’t find pleasure in us.  Not at first.  But we can teach them to.  But it depends on us.  We must reach out to them everyday.  Offer affection, smiles, eye contact, soft touching and lots of physical contact.  It is through this repetition that the brain will change.  The entire neurological system will change.  Over time, this child will begin seeking it out.  More and more.  And each time, they will find a little bit more pleasure in it.  Pretty soon, you will be their drug of choice.  Oxytocin and all of that.

So keep “practicing”.  Keep touching each other.  They might not “get it” at first.  Maybe you won’t either.  But eventually you both will.  You just need to breathe and just be in the present moment.  Regulated and safe for them.  And it will change.  I promise.  Science promises.  So do John and Paul.  Now THAT’S a pretty good reference!  🙂

November 8, 2008 Posted by | A New Paradigm, RAD Education | Leave a comment

It’s Not Socks…or rubberbands…or old papers…it’s you.

The human brain is a complicated place.  It is estimated that there are over 100 billion neurons inside that lump of clay.  Each neuron has an estimated 7,000 synapses which connects it to other neurons.  I’m no mathematician, but I can guess that that’s a whole heck of a lot of stuff going on at any given moment in one tiny place.  And all of it happening out of our ability to physically see it.  It just zings and snaps and connects and ……ahhhh!  It makes me dizzy thinking about it (even though I totally dig it too).

To simplify how the brain behaves, we can break it down into one issue: how the brain stores memory.  Think of it like this — there is a four drawer filing cabinet.  Each drawer is a deeper and deeper level of memory.  So the further down you go inside the cabinet, the more and more subconscious exist the files.

The first drawer is the cognitive drawer.  This is where your brain holds data, including names of people, important dates.  This is the drawer you are in when you are solving a math problem or trying to figure out your schedule for next week.  You problem solve from here.  Information in this drawer is normally at your disposal relatively quickly.

The second drawer is your emotional drawer.  This drawer contains all the emotions connected to your cognitive memories.  For instance, you might run into an old friend and find yourself flooded with feelings, either positive or negative.  But for your life, you cannot remember their last name.  That is because the last name is in the cognitive drawer and right now, you are in the second drawer.  You have accessed a stored emotion connected to that friend.

The third drawer is the motor drawer.  Here is where you are when you are literally writing the letters in the words on the page.  Or when you are riding a bicycle or driving a car.  These memories are subconscious.  You do not have to concentrate on making the letter “b” when you write the word “baby”, because your body has remembered it and stored it away.  You just write it, without any thought.  It’s like what they say about riding a bike — once you learn how, you never forget.  To a large extent, that is scientifically true.

The fourth drawer is what we call the state drawer.  The state drawer is the deepest level of memory inside your body.  It is 100% subconscious.  Our state drawer can contain many positive memories.  Such as being held as a baby and nursed and all those pre-verbal needs being met.  What’s in our state drawer dictates our personality.  The positive memories in this drawer make us a trusting person.  Or a funny person.  Maybe open and emotionally available.

And it is also here that all of our traumas are stored.  When we are yelling or screaming or even shut down, we are in our state drawer.  We are coming from a deep place inside ourselves that we have little control over, and in fact, sometimes are absolutely unaware of.  This is where our children are when they are tantruming or stealing or arguing.  They are trying to survive in the moment and they are doing the best that they can to make it happen.  A lot of people are afraid of the state drawer.  But I’m not.  Instead, I honor it.  It is here that my deepest personality traits spring from and it is here that I have become the person I am today.  And that is ok.  With all my flaws and all my goodness.  It’s just ok.

So why am I talking about this?

The thing is, I woke up this morning and had a class to teach at 10.  I was working hard to get a presentation together.  I quickly reviewed the material.  I was working so hard to concentrate.  But it wasn’t working and I was confused.  I felt slightly dysregulated.  I literally sat in this chair in front of my computer and It was then that I realized I was walking around in my second drawer.  I was being flooded by emotions.  As hard as I tried, I could not get into my top drawer, into my cognitive drawer.  I was just too caught up in a memory of something from a long time ago.   Something about walking home from school with a cute boy who didn’t even know he was my boyfriend.  And a song I used to play over and over again.  Like I was free falling out into nothing.

And that’s fine.  And eventually I had my class and I believe I taught it from my emotional drawer and it went well.  It had passion and that is sometimes missing in life, so that’s ok.

But it just reminded me that we need to sometimes reconsider the expectations we have for ourselves, and also for our children.  When our children are in their bottom drawer, they are not in a cognitive place.  That is why consequences in the moment of misbehavior do not work.  That is why when you use time-out once, you have to keep using it for years and years.  Because in the moment it does not work.  Because in the moment of the flood of emotions, and in the moment of resurfacing trauma in their little lives, they are not in a place to understand cause and effect.  They are not able to problem solve.  The consequence is chaotic and does not make any sense.  That cognitive drawer is just not open.  In those moments its state drawer time.

And this is not some goofy parenting model speaking here.  This is nueroscience.  Plain and simple.  It’s fact.  It shows up on MRIs and CT Scans all day long.

So what do our kids need in those moments instead of consequences?  Well, think back to the last time you melted down.  Or to the last time you were flooded with an emotional memory of someone from a long time ago.  What did you need?  What would have helped you process it and move forward?

Most likely you just needed someone beside you, fully present.  Someone who can hear you and say, “wow”.  Well, that’s just what your child needs too.

Because without someone who understands you and someone who can validate you, everything just seems like you’re free falling out into nothing.  And sometimes that can feel really good.  But you know, it can also be really overwhelming.  I guess it just depends on what you keep in all those drawers.

October 1, 2008 Posted by | A New Paradigm, RAD Education | Leave a comment

Which rabbit am I?

I laugh as I shake my head back and forth and somehow muster an, “I don’t know.”  And I didn’t get any smarter as I slept, because this morning I woke up and I still don’t know.  I don’t know which rabbit you are.  For that matter, I don’t know which I am either.  Ah, the plethora of things I do not quite yet know about myself.  All the answers, the references, the cross references, the things you always need to know.  But when you ring, I still pick it up.  And when you’re silent in my ear, I know you are laughing at something I just said.  And I wait to hear the echo of your happiness.  Which, as you know, is more precious to me than even my own.  Because your happiness is my happiness.   You are my “amygdala buddy” and I like it that way.

I think everybody needs one — an amygdala buddy, not a rabbit (although rabbits are really cool).  What everybody needs is someone who knows that you’re lying when you say that you are fine.  Someone who can enter the room and bring you instant regulation.  And if not instant, than pretty darn fast.  I wouldn’t necessarily call it a “chemistry” thing.  But it might be.  I’m just a pseudo-neuroscientist.  I just know what I know.  And I know that’s what you can do.  You can read right through my lines and you can feel what I feel right when I feel it.   That is connection.  And that is what everybody in the whole wide world spends their whole life yearning for.

I think I will tell you now, that the amygdala is the part of the primitive brain that is responsible for perceiving threat and danger in our environment.  A cave man with a well-working amygdala would have been a more successful hunter, more likely to survive in the woods.  Today, a child with a well-working amygdala will be more likely to survive his infancy when his mother does not feed him or change him or even pick him up at all.  Because he will begin to perceive her as a threat in his environment and he will not need to depend on her anymore.  And that perception will then be transferred to all adults, to all people for that matter.  Instaed of trust, mistrust forms.  That is trauma.  That is Reactive Attachment Disorder.

And no matter who you are, or what your story is, there is a piece of you in this article.  Because every one of our past experiences builds our brain into what it is today.  And when our past experiences are scary or stressful or even unpredictable, our amygdalas can become very, very strong.  And before we know it, we are perceiving even mundane things as threats to our well being, to our survival.  We might have panic attacks or we might get easily frustrated during moments of pressure. We might be more likely to have a one night stand than a long term relationship.  We might keep people close, but only so close.  We might always wonder if everybody feels that way. That is a strong amygdala.  That is being attachment-challenged. And that is just human nature.

So I don’t know what rabbit you are.  But at least I know you’re human.

September 28, 2008 Posted by | RAD Education | 3 Comments

That Darned old Pucker Brush again

Like I’ve said before, there is an old saying in the south about being confused.  It’s called “wandering around in the pucker brush.”  And to my understanding, the pucker brush is pretty nasty.  Prickly.  Painful.  Just bad to get lost in.

That is how it feels when you are trying to parent a child with a trauma history and can’t seem to find any help.  (Believe me.  I’ve been there!)

So to help you find your way out of the maze and into healing, you now have access to BCI-trained therapy right here in Oregon!

Check out this link:

Life Strategies in McMinnville, Oregon

And get yourself out of the pucker brush.  It’s never too late.

Peace in the home.

Peace in the community.

Peace in the world.

September 13, 2008 Posted by | A New Paradigm, RAD Education, Soap Box, Support Groups | Leave a comment

BCI Teleparenting Classes

A new round of teleparenting classes is starting next week from our friends at the Consciously Parenting Project! These classes are a great alternative/addition to attending a Live Event by BCI because it brings a Beyond Consequences Certified Instructor right to your door. But how?

Using a conference line, participants join the call at the designated time using the phone number given. During the call the students gather in a virtual classroom where the instructor leads a power point presentation while helping each student apply the principles to their own families. There is plenty of time for personal help, as well as time for questions and answers when they come up. After each class, students also have access to a private forum area where your instructor will continue to lead a more in depth discussion throughout the week about the principles taught in class. Homework is assigned, but is not graded, and overall, the classes make learning to parent differently a whole lot of fun because you get to interact with other parents who totally “get it”. They know where you are and they can support where you are trying to go.

Who can take a teleparenting class? Anybody! Whether you are an adoptive, foster, or biological family you are welcome at any of the Amazing Parents/Consciously Parenting classes and/or events.

Here’s what other parents have said about their experiences taking these teleparenting classes from the Consciously Parenting Project.

“The Beyond Consequences class has changed my view on parenting. I had read the book in the past but I wasn’t able to digest it in the same way as with the addition of the class/forum discussions. It took everything to a new level. I especially enjoyed the support of talking to and hearing from other parents who are on the same journey.”
-Mother of 4 biological children

“This training has been very beneficial in this trauma journey that we walk. Each time I learn a little more that I’m able to implement into my relationships with my daughter. Keep it up!”
-Mother of 2 adopted children

“This is the class I have been needing for 13 years! Thank you so much for opening my eyes to a new and better way to raise my children. Not only are my kids worth it but so am I!”

-Mother of 3 biological children

“In studying the Beyond Consequences book for the class, I learned it in a much more personal depth.”
-Grandmother raising 2 adopted children

If you would like more information about these teleparenting classes, including prices and schedules, click here.

August 16, 2008 Posted by | RAD Education | Leave a comment

Portland Area Parenting Workshop

I am so excited to announce an upcoming event in the Portland area for all families! Amazing Parents is holding a Saturday workshop dedicated to introducing the principles found in the book Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control.

As you probably already know, I am a Beyond Consequences Certified Instructor, which means I have been through extensive training and have many resources at my disposal in order to help bring a paradigm of hope and love and peace into your home. I have been coaching parents for years on what it really means to meet your child at their emotional level, which is really what BCLC is all about.

The question I always get is, “Yes, I understand what the book says, but HOW do I do it in real life?!” So that is what this workshop will help you do. It will help you begin applying what you already know.

Information will cover the 4 main principles of BCLC: The Stress Model, primary emotions love and fear, repetitious conditioning, and neuro-physiological feedback loops. There will also be opportunity for role playing and small group work.

Our class size will be very small in order to give each student plenty of time for personal support, as well as time for specific questions and answers to situations in their own families.

DATE: Saturday, August 16th, 2008

TIME: 9:00 am – 4:00 pm

For more information or to register click here.

Hope to see you there!

August 8, 2008 Posted by | RAD Education, Support Groups | Leave a comment

Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control

I spend so much time talking about the principles I’ve learned from the book Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control (BCLC) that I figured I might as well stop beating around the bush and actually directly address what this book is all about.

When I first found BCLC, I read it from the perspective of an adoptive mom struggling to parent a child with very severe behaviors. I skipped across the first few chapters until I got to the heart of the matter: the case scenarios. I wanted to read about how this so-called miracle method works in children like my son. I mean, this kid of mine was absolutely out of control! He tantrumed all day long everyday. He had been expelled from public school twice by second grade. He would NOT do any chores at home whatsoever. He wouldn’t respond to any amount of discipline or reward. The last straw was when he sent my 2 year old biological daughter to the ER with her teeth broken out of her beautiful face. I was without hope. I felt like I was unable to parent this child whatsoever. I felt like he truly hated me and my heart was broken a little bit more everyday.

I probably sat on the information of BCLC for at least 6 months before I picked up the book again. By then I had thought a lot about what it was saying to me: that children with RAD can heal. That went against everything I had ever heard about Reactive Attachment Disorder. I had been told that these children were sociopaths in training, that the damage done to their brains was permanent, and that the best thing you could do as a parent was to find a really good residential treatment facility to keep on hold for later.

But what BCLC was saying was that there was hope. That my son didn’t have to live out his life feeling this angry, this desperate. He didn’t have to die one day without ever knowing what love really feels like. BCLC told me that I, as the parent, had the power to change my son’s path. That was the opposite of what I had been told by therapists, books, and other adoptive parents. But now I was ready to at least give it a try. I mean, what did I have to lose? My kid was already so bad I was seeking placement outside the home. It was my last ditch effort. I could at least try it, right?

Well, I did. I tried it. As best as I could at that time, although I was still extremely reactive and I wasn’t exactly doing it “right”. I still yelled and I still sent kids to their rooms. Hey, there are moments I still do. But the beauty of BCLC is that there is no such thing as right or wrong. BCLC allows you the space to do what you need to do in any moment and it gives you permission to be angry and to be loving and be able to go to all the emotional places in between with them safely. And that is exactly what an attachment-disordered child needs you to do. They need you to be able to run that spectrum of emotions with them. And more than that, they need you to believe they can run it too.

Because, quite frankly, that is not what I was told. I was told that these children have no “real” emotions. I was told that anything even closely resembling love was in fact an attempt to control me. I was told that my son’s anger was his way of intimidating me. I was told that my son would never learn what love really was. And I was so paralyzed by fear that I didn’t know to think anything else.

But, 3 years later, I can sit here today, at this keyboard, and offer up my experience as a living testimony to the power of unconditional love and the principles in BCLC. When I first became able to love my son — wrap my arms around him genuinely and look at him with sincere, deep, longing — was when my son was first able to do that back to me. Suddenly, he was laughing at my jokes, looking towards me for social ques, and climbing up into my arms for affection. And yes, it still makes me cry to even write that. Because it seemed so impossible then. And still it seems so surreal.

But it’s not.

It’s real.

And it’s not just about my son. It’s about me. About becoming the person I always thought I was. Years ago I was emotionally unbalanced, judgmental, frozen by fear and expectations of those around me. Today I am light as a bird because I know who I am. I am not a slave to my emotional wims. I can be angry and still be safe. I can express love and not limit that experience by placing unnecessary expectations on those I share it with. Most improved is my overall sense of hope. Because three years ago there was none. Today there is nothing but HOPE.

Because these children can heal. And you and I can do something to make that happen. That is the power of BCLC. And what do we have to lose in trying it? We have nothing to lose except the opportunity that is slipping through our fingers if we choose to ignore experiences like mine.

Trust your gut. Test out everything you’ve ever been told. Buy the book. Read it. Read it again. And again. And write me back when you start to “get it”. Because I know you will. And your kids will LOVE you for it.  And you will love them too.

July 5, 2008 Posted by | A New Paradigm, RAD Education | 3 Comments

A Site for Sore Eyes

Several years ago I started this blog, not really knowing where it would lead me. My first post was a declaration stating the need for a local support group for parents of children with attachment-challenges. And I meant it. We did need one.

At the time I wrote that post, I was vaguely aware of the need in my local area for more education on the effects of trauma and how prevalent trauma is within adopted and fostered children. I knew we needed more information and options regarding treatment plans for our children with RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder). And I knew we also needed to help educate the higher-ups: other parents, our children’s teachers, and all those therapists they kept referreing us to with no success. Today I am very clearly, hugely aware of just how much this is all still needed. And I have been working very hard to bring that to Oregon.

Well, here comes the reality of that hope: the official Amazing Parents website, which is officially being launched TODAY! Whoo hoo! I hope you all are standing on your computer chairs clapping and cheering in celebration of this huge accomplishment! Because it’s AMAZING!!

On our website, we will be offering educational classes and workshops here in our area based on the book Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control by Heather T. Forbes and Dr. Bryan Post. This is the book that has changed my life and helped heal my son — the same child they told me would never learn to love or be loved. We will also be bringing free support groups to parents who are really ready to try something new and see permanent positive changes in their families. With this support, we know you can make those changes. Follow that up with personal phone coaching by a Beyond Consequences Certified Instructor, and you have all the tools in your hands to move forward.

In addition, Amazing Parents is in partnership with Life Strategies, which is a counseling agency owned by Sandra Lucas, MAMFT. Sandra will be bringing the principles of BCLC into each and every one of her therapy sessions. So between the classes, the support groups, the coaching, and the therapy, Amazing Parents is Oregon’s total package for helping families heal!

If you haven’t already, please check out Amazing Parents today and sign up for one of our free local events. I just know your entire family will thank you, because you will finally be able to find your way out of the maze and into love and healing.

June 23, 2008 Posted by | RAD Education, Support Groups | 5 Comments

Beyond Consequences TeleParenting Support Classes

I am proud to announce that the Consciously Parenting Project is now offering two levels of classes designed to teach the principles found in the book Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control by Heather Forbes and Bryan Post.

The classes are “tele” classes, which means that the classroom is virtual and the courses are conducted over the phone on a conference line. Each student is free to speak at any time during the class, whether to make a comment, share a personal experience, or ask a question. The teachers Rebecca and Wilma are excellent listeners and speakers, and are very, very well-trained in this parenting model. After each class, students are directed to a private forum for continued discussion of the topics from that week’s class. In addition, each student also receives homework that they are to do in the privacy of their own homes.

I just finished taking the level 1 classes and I cannot tell you enough what a difference they have made to me. As someone who has been putting these principles to use for several years now, I really thought I knew it all. But I didn’t. These classes are so great because they teach the basic principles, which is what many are looking for. But for someone like me who already knows them, you can also take your understanding to a new level. Really as deep as you want. So whether you are just starting out with a child with a trauma history, or your family is well on the path to healing, you will benefit from these classes.

Considering the cost of attachment therapy, you cannot beat the cost of these classes. Therapy can be upwards of hundreds of dollars per hour, whereas these classes are $40 total. That is 6 hours of instruction by phone with a BCI-trained therapist and unlimited access to the forum with other parents who totally “get it”. At that price, you can’t afford NOT to take them! The best news is that a new round of classes starts in just a couple of weeks and sign ups are now being taken.

Soon we will be offering similar courses like these in the McMinnville area. But why wait? Why not check them out from my friends at the Consciously Parenting Project today? You won’t be sorry.

BCI Teleparenting Classes from the Consciously Parenting Project

April 7, 2008 Posted by | A New Paradigm, RAD Education, Support Groups | Leave a comment