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Comment on Every Possible Mistake by sandrar

sandrar — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:44:47 +0000

Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post… nice! I love your blog. Cheers! Sandra. R.

Comment on Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control by amazingparents

amazingparents — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 14:38:06 +0000

My son is 11 now, but I believe he was 7 when I first found BCLC. It works for all ages, including adults.

Do you have children with severe behaviors?

Comment on Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control by Joanne

Joanne — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 06:17:03 +0000

How old was your son when you began this?

Comment on Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control by Susan Cushman

Susan Cushman — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 18:57:44 +0000

Great post. I learned about Beyond Consequences through some other adoptive mothers in a support group. My three adopted “kids” are grown now, but I wish this information and wisdom had been availale when they were young. Thanks for sharing.

Comment on At a crossroads? by Michael Tim

Michael Tim — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 17:27:41 +0000

I love your site!

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Comment on Leaving my line to define my plane by susankuchinskas

susankuchinskas — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 16:11:25 +0000

I too have found that my perspective can shift so much from day to day, but never could have put it so elegantly.

I can point to many times in my life where, in retrospect, I see that third point, that other way. But you never know what you don’t know. This math metaphor is a beautiful way of reminding us to look beyond what we know.

Comment on When Love Is Not Enough by peggy

peggy — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 10:57:03 +0000

hey bethany im coming to you as you know more then anyone that i can trust ok julie and bob are going to class to be foster parents right now and in the class they talk about r.a.d kids but the teacher of the class said they only know just a little she said but what they told julie is the same stuff you told me, but julie told me something i wanted to ask you ok you know when jeremy left it was only for a short while and he would come and see the kids every day or every other day well ever sence jeremy left kobie never been the same and even paige is taking on his trates, we got kobie on one of the best supplements called listol and give him vitamins every day and omaga-3 fish oil and still nothing and we read to him everyday and you know me i give him hugs and kisses and nothing works this saturday we did a family day we took the kids out and we went to the mall and dinner and i thought i was going to have a nervis brake down because both of them wouldnt stop touching everything they could get there little hands on jeremy and i were going to take the kids to toys r us to pick out something special and kobie wouldnt stop we both told him if he doesnt act right then we are not going to go to toys r us and he was being bad so we said ok you lost that privlege so now we are not going and he threw the biggest fit ever and wouldnt stop crying, so what i was going to ask you is can a child kobie was 4 when that happend, adaped to having R.A.D but it wasent like he was neglected but maybe because i was so sad he took on that, thats what im a scared of and its like nothing jeremy and i do makes a diffrece we love that boy so much and jeremy and i doet over him and paige and they are, are world but what do you think that can help thinking taking him in to the doctors because my stress level cant take it any more and get him on something so if you think thats what we should do please write back you talk to many moms that have children like kobie and you being a mom and you being close to my kids im asking please tell me what i can do for him so we can fix it now so he can be all he can be so please write back peg

Comment on The Deep Freeze Experiment by danifesto

danifesto — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 02:41:53 +0000

This reminds me of the big power outage Toronto had back in the day. They still commemorate this in one area of town. The electricity is all turned off (well except for refrigeration) and people do things outside with BBQs, campfires, games, acoustic instruments, dancing, candles. It’s magical- the way that unexpected disasters bring people together, often for the better. I’m not wishing for a catastrophe mind you, I’m just saying I’m inspired by how quickly we make lemonade out of life’s lemons.

Comment on Leaving my line to define my plane by danifesto

danifesto — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 02:36:29 +0000

Wow. This was an amazing post. I’m going to have to revisit this a couple of times. So many life applications can be made here. You know in educational assessment we design around the triangulation model to verify our findings of growth. And when people are plotting or mapping out things, they triangulate. Same thing for GPS. Your geeky sibling could probably state this more intelligently than I’m trying to do but the point you make that this science also holds true in our lives I think is fascinating. Just fascinating!

Comment on Leaving my line to define my plane by connie

connie — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 02:22:15 +0000

Wow! I can so tell that you and I are related, even though we’re different in so many ways. I remember feeling just like you describe. I felt a little guilty that I felt so good. But I also felt good enough to want to keep my world defined just like it was at that moment in time because it was so much better than it had ever been before. I thought I had my plane all figured out. The only thing I wanted was to add just a little human interaction now and then. So I go looking for somebody to hang out with once in a while. And after a year or so I end up on the cliff, contemplating another marriage, about to rearrange the whole thing again. I was so scared to redefine my plane yet another time and worse yet, have somebody else involved in redefining it with me. But I weighed the pros and cons and said yes. And here I am a few years later, and I LOVE this new perspective, this new plane. This one that I was so scared to reach for because I was content in my old “new” plane.

I agree. Don’t be scared to reach out and change the plane sometimes. I’ve gained so much more than just a good relationship. I don’t rely on him or anybody for my happiness or contentment now. I’m not so afraid of change any more. I reached out and it WAS ok.

My thoughts are just as strange as yours sometimes. ;D